“Well, I’m certainly a better husband than Joe,” protested a defensive husband in counseling. Truthfully, we can always find someone else better or worse than ourselves. It’s important to emphasize how far we’ve come, but the key to a successful marriage rests in not only starting strong and making progress. Success culminates in finishing strong.
We measure growth in marriage by our progress in becoming like Jesus and His love for His bride, the church. What are some of the essential qualities of the relationship of Christ to His church and the Bridegroom to the bride? What is the godly marriage relationship? What is the standard?
…measure growth in marriage… by progress in becoming like Jesus and His love for His bride, the church.
Unconditional love (agape)—His love desires the best for the other person. Marriage is not about me; it’s about my mate. Love says, “Nothing can make me stop loving you.”
Servant attitude and lifestyle—Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Eph. 5:21 NIV). Ask your mate, “How may I serve you?”
Sacrificial friendship—Friends lay down their lives for one another (John 15:13). Jesus laid down His life for the church. Say to your spouse, “You are not the enemy. You’re my best friend.”
Honoring and esteeming your mate—Jesus presents His bride as a glorious, purified mate. We honor and esteem our mates, preferring them to ourselves.
Try this: How can you honor your spouse today? What can you do to honor your mate before others?
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition
or conceit, but in lowliness of mind
let each esteem others better than himself.
(Source: Seventy-Seven Irrefutable Truths Of Marriage[a]Larry Keefauver and Judy ...continue)
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|a.||⇑||Larry Keefauver and Judy Keefauver, Seventy-Seven Irrefutable Truths of Marriage, (Gainesville, FL: Bridge-Logos Publishers, 2002)|